How can I be myself?

How can I be myself?

I’m always comparing myself to others – friends, neighbours, colleagues.

I compare my appearance to how others look. I compare my work to how able others are. I compare my life to how many things others have ticked off their bucket list.

I’m comparing myself to a standard that our society has set. We expect people – ourselves included – to look and live a certain way.

And I fear falling short. It makes me feel insecure and anxious.

“Don’t change”

I’m not the only one who constantly compares. In her song Thursday, Jess Glynne wrestles with the pressure to be like others.

And there are many things that I could change so slightly
But why would I succumb to something so unlike me
I was always taught to just be myself
Don't change for anyone.

Don’t change. Be yourself. There’s some truth in this.

God doesn’t say how short our hair should be, what make-up we should wear or whether or not we should have a mortgage and children by the age of thirty. 

In Christ, we are free from these standards which society expects us to meet (Galatians 5:1). But it doesn’t mean that no change is needed.

Being my true self

God wants us to be our true selves.

Christians are God’s children. So being myself isn’t about looking a certain way; it’s about taking on the family likeness, looking like my Father in my character.

Like him, it means being loving, kind, patient and forgiving (Galatians 5:22-23). It means saying ‘no’ to whatever doesn’t reflect his nature (Galatians 5:16).

Comparing ourselves to other people is silly when God’s given us Jesus’ perfection. What more could we want?

We should take the energy to compare ourselves and invest it in becoming who we already are – God’s children, being remade in his perfect image (2 Corinthians 3:18).