Love Island: Should we be true to ourselves?

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If you’re wondering why we’re watching Love Island, or whether you should or could, check out Jonny’s first article here.


Love Island is hotting up and disagreements are on the rise. But there’s something that every islander agrees on:

You have to think of yourself. She has to just to do what’s right by her. I’ve got to be true to myself. He shouldn’t change himself for her. Follow your heart. 

This opinion can be summed up with Curtis’ word of advice: “You do you.” Who could argue with that? It sounds about right.

But is it?

Being myself?

In one sense, yes. It’s right.

God’s given us each a unique personality. You get energised by people? You’re a bit shy? You like musicals? Great! We don’t need to be someone we’re not.

But we take this too far. We forget that our personality and the actions it produces are also marred by sin (Matthew 12:34). Sin makes us prioritise ourselves, while hurting others.

Curtis is a case in point.

He remained true to his heart when someone new took his fancy, risking a great relationship with a woman who was about to tell him that she loved him.

And where did it leave him? Alone, head in hands. But what was Tommy’s consolation?

“You couldn’t have gone about your business any other way. You’ve been true to yourself.”


Giving myself up

The Bible does, however, call Christians to be true to themselves.

We’ve been given Jesus’ perfect righteousness (Philippians 3:9). We’ve been remade in the image of a God who was true to himself and so gave himself up for others (Colossians 3:10).

Being true to ourselves means obeying God’s clear command: ‘In humility value others above yourselves’ (Philippians 2:3); ‘Do everything in love’ (1 Corinthians 16:14).

How tragic that in the pursuit of love, our commitment to ourselves keeps us from ever finding it?

Christian – be yourself by giving yourself up for others.