More than Bieber bargained for?

All is not well between Justin Bieber and Hailey Baldwin.

The recently engaged couple were spotted crying earlier this week, sparking speculation that things are rocky between them.

In this video, Bieber was asked about his tears. 'This', he said, holding up a copy of Tim Keller's book, The Meaning of Marriage.

Bieber went on. 

‘You got good days, and you got bad days. It’s not real if it doesn’t have any bad days.'

Marriage Mission

It's refreshing. Soon-to-be-weds can easily have a fairy-tale view of the rest of their lives together.

As Keller writes,

‘[S]ome people in our culture want too much out of a marriage partner. They do not see marriage as two flawed people coming together to create a space of stability, love, and consolation - a "haven in a heartless world".'

Marriage can wrongly become the mission of two imperfect people to create a perfect relationship in an imperfect world.

And Bieber and Baldwin are clearly learning that this isn’t only hard – it’s impossible.

Mission made possible

Marriage is great because it offers a glimpse of the love we all desire. But it's uncomfortable because it shows how flawed we really are.

And whilst we might want to avoid marriage to spare us this pain, it's actually what gives marriage its power.

Before anything else, marriage is a picture of the gospel (Ephesians 5:32). And as Keller puts it:

‘The gospel is this: We are more sinful and flawed in ourselves than we ever dared believe, yet at the very same time we are more loved and accepted in Jesus Christ than we ever dared hope.'

I don't know if Keller's book will help Justin's relationship with Hailey. But, whatever happens, I hope that it will show him more of God's love in Christ.

And that may be more than Bieber bargained for.