Single, lonely, loved

‘But Ruth replied," Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay.’ Ruth 1:16

Wouldn’t that be nice? To have someone say something like that to your face? To feel their intense commitment to you. To know they will cross continents with you.

Many married people enjoy this kind of companionship. But singleness doesn’t mean missing out on God’s good gifts to us in this world.

So why does my singleness sometimes make me sad? 

Lonely, but loved

Perhaps it’s because I feel guilty for finding singleness hard.

Single people, especially single Christians, often find it hard to admit something pretty basic, something pretty human.

That we want to be loved.

But we shouldn’t be afraid to say it – it’s biblical. We’re right to not want to be alone (Genesis 2:18). We’re right to wish for a companion for the long haul. We’re made for community (1 Thessalonians 5:11).

The tricky bit for single people is knowing that we’re loved when we feel lonely.

It’s about having that confidence, that joy, that need being met in God without there being someone physically there with you.

Our Bridegroom

The culture around me presents romantic relationships, and even marriage, as life’s solution. But Jesus was pretty counter-cultural and marriage and singleness weren’t high up his priority list.

That’s because through his death on the cross, our bridegroom has given me the ultimate marriage, the perfect companionship and the most spectacular of weddings (Revelation 19:6-9). 

Of course, singleness can be painful and that mustn’t be overlooked. The desire to be married can be incredibly strong and I know, at times, feel overwhelming.

But don’t forget that in Jesus – whether single or married – you are living loved.

Gladly, fully and eternally loved.