The how more than the what

What work should I do? Where should I live? Who should I marry? Should I even get married?

We all ask questions like these. I interrogate my past choices and ones I may make in future. But recently I’ve realised something.

While it’s good to ask questions, I’m making a mistake. I’ve been asking the wrong ones.  

Asking the wrong questions

When it comes to the what, where and who, I’m a natural. But these aren’t the questions that God promises to answer. And the questions he’s answered are the ones I’m not asking.

In the Bible he doesn’t tell me what subject I should study, where I should work, who I should get to know. Sure, I can come to him in prayer and seek his guidance on these things. But God didn’t reveal these things.


Because the what of our lives isn’t top of his agenda.

The how is.

Whatever you do

When a young man asked Jesus what he should prioritise in life, Jesus responded candidly:

''Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbour as yourself.’" Matthew 22:37-39

Similarly, Paul doesn’t seem to get too het up about the what of our lives; ‘Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God’ (1 Corinthians 10:31).

‘Whatever’ you do, just make sure the glory of God is front and centre.

God’s will for your life

God’s main agenda for our lives isn’t what job we do, where we shop and who we spend our time with. His agenda revolves around how we do those things.

So before asking 'what should I do with my life?', we should ask, 'how can I glorify God in whatever it is that I am doing?'.

This is the right and important question. Christ died so we could glorify God. And this will mean honing in on the how more than the what.